We all experience times of uncertainty in our lives. Uncertainty is the result of feeling unprepared, unsure, unsupported, unseen or even unheard.
During times of uncertainty, we often move into fight, flight, or freeze, and this equates to grappling onto external means for stability. They can be in the form of your nearest and dearest, to counsellors, bank managers, the list goes on…
However, what if those external means are like shifting sands? If you send out grappling hooks hoping to find stability with someone or a group of people, it is important to remember that they too, may be seeking out some stability reprieve and therefore, cannot support you at this time.
The outcome is stability is lost and anxiety ensues. This can lead to irrational thought processes and behaviours. It is easy to feel unsupported and alone very quickly when this occurs.
Therefore, when our lives are stable, it is important to set up known stable platforms that we can resort to in times of need.
test
Let’s Begin with You
- Connect with someone you trust and give them a code word for when you feel out of your depth.
- Create a phrase, affirmation, prayer, or word that you can say to bring you back into centre. It is wise to create this and practice repeating it before you need to use it, so your body or mind responds quickly when required.
- Wear a fragrance that is dedicated to making you feel strong and empowered. This is effective if you have a meeting or social event where uncertainty may arise.
- Select your ‘power colour’ and wear it when you need to remain calm or empowered.
- Discover what relaxes you when you are alone and have quality one on one time, and default to that process when you feel out of balance.
- Do you have a favourite piece of jewellery that doubles as a calming or supportive item?
- Black tourmaline, hematite and kyanite are wonderful for centering the mind and body during chaotic times.
- Find a piece of music that you love so much, you feel uplifted or really present when listening to it. Play it whenever you feel the need. Wear headphones for that extra you-time.
- Develop a hobby or creative outlet that enables you to relax, calm your mind and nervous system whenever you implement it.
- Are your finances, passwords, computer backups, important documents all up to date? General ‘housekeeping’ in these areas help eliminate uncertainty and unnecessary stress.
- Avoid avoidance. Make sound choices that support you and help you feel safe and secure.
- Back yourself, trust your intuition and stay true to your integrity/belief systems.
- Uncertainty doesn’t exist everywhere, so find somewhere that is certain – nature, visit a friend, read a good book – and you will rebalance.
- Place an importance on personal boundaries and personal space. Factor this in if you are uncomfortable with crowds or social gatherings. If you need to attend, locate an area you can retreat to if you feel suddenly anxious.
test
How to Manage Your Energy
Energy plays an important role in this topic as we are all primarily energetic beings. We give out energy in time and effort, and we receive energy from others…both wanted and unwanted.
Uncertainty or unpredictability creates shock waves that energetically can power towards us at lightning speed.
- Many of us rely on our personal energy to strengthen and either shield us, or to fire us up and act (fight response).
- For some of us, we surrender our energy quickly to the situation due to a sense of shock and feel helpless (freeze response).
- For others, there is an instinctual urge to avoid a situation or run from it (flight response).
It is important to recognise your natural first response and understand if it is helping you or hindering you. It may rescue you from an immediate threat or it may exacerbate it. Remember, if you understand how you react and respond to different situations of uncertainty, you can strengthen yourself and make wise, empowered choices moving forward.
test
When Facing Unexpected Confrontation
It is easy to get caught up in energy battles with others. This may be through encountering strong personalities, conflicting ideas, or belief systems, or even a bullying situation.
Energetically this can be very tiring and will always leave someone feeling disrespected or dishonoured. That toxic energy remains dense and can linger for a long time around the participants involved.
Is there a better way to energetically manage confrontations? The good news is yes, there is. It takes practice for this technique to feel natural and become a part of your natural response mechanism, yet you will notice a positive shift as a result.
Next time you find yourself in a confrontational or uncertain situation, try this…
Build up your personal energy so you feel stronger, and instead of generating anger, channel it to make yourself feel taller and remain calm. The natural outcome will make you feel empowered, focused, and centred.
Why does this work? When people find themselves in a confrontational or bullying situation, the aggressor always projects their energy over the other to make them feel weak or small. When you ‘rise up’, you avoid being ‘caught in the net’ and feeling vulnerable.
We may not have control over uncertain times; however, we do have control over how we respond and navigate our way through them. Good luck!